I recently heard a man share an incredible message about unity and the power that it can bring to any home, team or organization. He talked about how much God loves unity and how the greater the unity in a place the greater the anointing is there. He shared briefly on what unity truly is and is not, how to grow in unity, how to yield to unity, rules for conflict and, what caught my attention the most, how to trust our weaknesses. AKA, “living in the tension”. So in an effort to share this incredible message with all of you, and also honor the man who shared this message-since I do not know his name-please know that everything below is notes from what he shared, and not my own. I hope it encourages you as much as it did me.
1 How good and pleasant it is
when God’s people live together in unity!
2 It is like precious oil poured on the head,
running down on the beard,
running down on Aaron’s beard,
down on the collar of his robe.
3 It is as if the dew of Hermon
were falling on Mount Zion.
For there the Lord bestows his blessing,
even life forevermore.
After examining the verse above more we know that;
- Unity brings abundance
- Unity is attractive
- Unity is expensive
- Unity is powerful.
Unity is NOT agreement. It’s not submission to an idea. It is rather a merging of wills, to want the same things. To choose to want the same things for the greater good.
Unity is NOT conformity. This is actually the counterfeit to unity. It masquerades as unity to avoid conflict. It agrees simply to move on and not cause a ripple in the pond. But conflict is actually what helps mold and move us through. This Conflict in and of itself is not bad or wrong, if it is done in a healthy way. If we remember that most homes and organizations are not a democracy. Everyone’s opinions are not equally valid. Father’s and CEO’s opinions weigh heavier than anyone else’s. And secondly, we must remember that we love each other in the midst of conflicts. They will make us better and stronger if we will choose to walk through them in a healthy way.
So how do we learn to grow in unity? We must embrace the process of healthy conflict. Stop avoiding it. Often times in the church we’ve come to believe that loving people means avoiding disagreement. There’s a false idea that if I love you then I just agree with you and that conflict is wrong. Conflict actually forces us to examine how we really feel about something, instead of staying on the surface. Second, we must learn to yield. The blessing of God comes when we yield and fully throw in our support, even when we don’t fully understand or agree. It’s a choice of our will. It’s a choice to yield our opinion, our rights, and choose unity over personal preference.
And last, we must learn to trust our weaknesses. God created our weaknesses as much as He did our strengths. Our weaknesses force us to depend on others and push us into unity. We must trust that God hand-picked our weaknesses and learn to trust them as much as we do our strengths. Trust the tension between knowing and not knowing. Trust others in their strengths to fill the gap. Admit your weaknesses openly and empower others to speak up about ways their strengths can help. The power of a home or organization to enlarge their territory (either spiritually or practically) is dependent on this area. Learn to live within the tension of your weaknesses and strengths. If you don’t mind conflict at all and others do, find the tension where you are both bending to find a compromise in how often you confront things. If you like to move at lightning speed, but work with others who do not, find the tension to slow yourself down, while asking them to pick up the pace a little. Live in the tension of being uncomfortable as a form of yielding to others and their preferences and the whole team will grow because of it.